10 Reason of your being single

Hello readers today we are looking at why you are single.

If we can ask you a personal question ... How is your love life? Are you currently single or looking for a long-term relationship? Although we hope that you have found that special person, we understand that, in general, dating is not easy. 

Do you think you could be hurting your chances of true love? Have you had a long list of failed relationships, but can't seem to figure out where it all went wrong? Well here are 10 things that could be keeping you from finding relationships that work.

1: You have cynical opinions about love. What does that say again? "Once bitten, twice shy," it is common for people who have been bitten by love to stop believing in the magic of romance. You have every right to cry, feel hurt, and learn from the experience, 

but being stuck in your negative ways and thinking about your pain, resentment, and regret will only take you away from new opportunities to find the one who truly loves you. for who you are

2: You set unrealistic standards. Today, we see so many photos and online posts of couples that are # relationship goals, that it can start to cloud your judgment and give you unrealistically high standards. 

You can turn down great dating prospects or throw away a special connection you have with someone just because it wasn't everything you expected it to be. But the truth is, sometimes relationships have more to do with being the right person than finding the right person.

3: You have established too many traffickers. You know what you want, and that's a good thing! But expecting too much from your potential partners too quickly sets the stage for failure and disappointment. Are you fast enough to leave it and run away at the first sign of imperfection? Just as you deserve a fair chance, so do they. 

In the end, relationships take time and effort, and sometimes those flaws make this person especially designed for your relationship. It is in the complete acceptance of an imperfect person that we find the kind of love that should last.

4: You have an unresolved past trauma. Whether it's a messy breakup, a toxic relationship, or an unhappy childhood, your past can leave you with a ton of painful memories and emotional scars that you often never get over. 

You end up carrying that trauma with you throughout your life, without knowing it, allowing it to ruin your relationships. Resolving, accepting, and being at peace with your past will not only negate most of the detrimental effects, but will also help you be a better partner, giving the relationship the best chance to withstand the test of time.

5: You have low self-esteem. I know you've heard the quote ... "You can't love someone else until you learn to love yourself first." When you suffer from low self-esteem, you tend to lose yourself in your partner. Instead of developing your sense of self, your partner is used as a substitute. 

Since you feel that you are not worthy of their love, you constantly worry that they will eventually realize that and leave. Insecurity makes this a self-fulfilling prophecy. There are things like misinterpreting small actions, catastrophizing and constantly suspecting your partner. This can be exhausting for the other person and for you.

6: You are afraid of happiness. Hey, don't laugh. You know how it sounds, why does someone fear being happy? We humans are strange creatures and this is something that happens, even though most of us are not aware of it. Are you afraid of what would happen if you ever found the right one? Are you so afraid that it will lead you to sabotage your relationships? 

Do you push people away before they can get too close to you because having an honest emotional connection with someone scares you? He tries not to get too attached and suppress his desire for connection so much that others may misunderstand and think that he is inconsiderate, inconsistent, and uninterested.

7: You have trust issues. Do you feel jealous that your partner is close to other people? Does it bother you to think that they go out without you? Do you need to read your messages and know where they are all the time just to feel safe? Sad to say, nothing condemns a relationship faster than a lack of mutual trust. Behaving as if you don't trust them will make your partner resentful over time. No one likes to be constantly controlled and under suspicion

8: You Think You Will Lose Your Independence By Being In A Relationship. Romantic comedy movies always say "Complete me," which is not the healthiest message. Perhaps you unconsciously fear commitment because you think you will lose your independence or freedom when you find a relationship. The truth is the opposite. 

Remember this ... In a healthy relationship, you should never have to sacrifice your personality, your independence, or who you are for a romantic partner. The hallmark of every strong and enduring relationship is learning to maintain your independence, while remaining happily committed to someone.

9: You love someone you can't or shouldn't have. Most of us are guilty of pleasing someone against our best judgment. Probably even more than once. Whether because they're already busy or emotionally unavailable, it's easy to fall in love with the wrong people. The obsession with forbidden fruit closes your ability to consider the most compatible and suitable people for you.

10: You don't learn from your mistakes We all make mistakes. We are human, but what mistakes have you made in your past relationships? And what have you learned from them? What has changed in you and how do you see things due to your mistakes? If you don't know or think you've never done anything wrong, this may be the most damaging factor in your ability to find a lasting relationship. 

Mistakes allow us to learn, grow and be better next time. If there is no learning, the same mistakes occur and the cycle is endless. A relationship requires more than one person. Luckily, one of those people is you! How do you think you are doing it? What went sideways in previous relationships? Do you relate to any of these signs on this blog or maybe you see a friend who has these signs? Knowing the answers to these questions will help you a lot in your search for love. We hope you enjoyed this blog! Don't forget to comment and subscribe bloogs4u

Have a great life and big dreams